30 Self-Defeating Beliefs Common to Men

Here are some common limiting beliefs that many men have shared with me during workshops and sessions. Check any statements that resonate with you. Are you willing to ask yourself a few questions to change your beliefs and change your life?

___ 1. I'm not enough.

___ 2. I don't have time for love.

___ 3. Real men don't show emotion.

___ 4. If I fail, I’ll be embarrassed to try again.

___ 5. If I haven’t been successful yet, I never will be.

___ 6. I don’t know how to be in relationships.

___ 7. It’s too late for love.

___ 8. I don’t know how to meet people, especially women.

___ 9. I have no control over my time.

___ 10. If I make more money, I won't have any free time.

___ 11. I’m only loved for my money, or for what I can give to others.

___ 12. If I enjoy life, I’ll lose all my money.

___ 13. If I don't make X amount of money, I'm a failure.

___ 14. I don’t deserve love, success, happiness.

___ 15. If I were happy, I’d quit my job, and then not be able to support my family.

___ 16. If I did what I loved to do, I wouldn’t make enough money.

___ 17. I’ll never understand women.

___ 18. I can’t be in a relationship because I’ll just get hurt again.

___ 19. If I fail, people will see me as a loser.

___ 20. My physical body is not adequate enough to succeed with women.

___ 21. Size matters.

___ 22. I need to be in control of each situation to feel safe.

___ 23. I need to fix everything, not talk about it.

___ 24. If I cannot solve the problem, then I'm not useful.

___ 25. I'd rather be right than loved.

___ 26. If you loved me, you would....

___ 27. I can't change, I am who I am.

___ 28. I can't learn to communicate, it's just not what interests me.

___ 29. You have sex, you don't talk about sex.

___ 30. If you make more money than me, you won't need me anymore.

If any of these statements ring true for you, it may be time to take your destiny into your own hands by dissolving the beliefs that sabotage your success and happiness.

What is a belief? It is a perception of reality, or something you were told that you had no reason to doubt. How do you know that you have a self-defeating belief? If you are feeling some way you don't like feeling, you are probably believing something that's not true.

Choose one limiting belief and ask yourself these questions:

• Do I believe that?
• Why do I believe that?
• What seems true about that?
• What might concern me if that belief were gone? (What might happen that I would not like?)

These questions give you a powerful starter kit for creating happiness beyond belief.